Anger…an intense emotional response.

Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems — problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you’re at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion…

Anger is seen as a supportive mechanism to show a person that something is wrong and requires changing. Anger can mobilize psychological resources for corrective action. Uncontrolled anger can, however, negatively affect personal or social well -being; and impact negatively on those around them. It is equally challenging to be around an angry person and the impact can also cause psychological/emotional trauma if not dealt with. While many philosophers and writers have warned against the spontaneous and uncontrolled fits of anger, there has been disagreement over the intrinsic value of anger..

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“We all experience anger;  anger only becomes a serious concern when an individual is angry too frequently, too intensely, and for too long.” 

You build a house and then install doors in it, isn’t it?  After installing the doors in your house, will you allow animals and reptiles like donkeys, pigs, snakes and scorpions to enter your home, just because the doors are there?

No!

Even if they try to forcefully enter, you will drive them away and close the door, isn’t it?

Similarly, you can easily control the door of your heart. If you close the door of your heart to evil qualities, they cannot enter. You should not get angry with anyone, nor criticise or harm anyone.

Even if, for any reason, such circumstances arise, you must learn to control yourself. When anger overtakes you, put it down immediately considering it as your worst enemy. It is said: ‘Anger is your enemy,  patience is your shield of protection, and happiness is your heaven’.

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Fill your heart with love and compassion.

When you fill your heart with love, you will be able see Goodness everywhere. Where there is No Love, you will able to see only devils everywhere!

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“Anyone can become angry, that is easy…but to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way…this is not easy.” — Aristotle

Anger is an active emotion that calls the person feeling it to respond.  People get into anger issues because both the instigator and instigated lack interpersonal and social skills to maintain self-control..  They can train to respond to their anger as unwanted and unpleasant rather than react to its need.  Turning a blind eye or forgiveness is a tool to turn anger off.. Getting enough sleep, exercise and good diet are tools which can assist in preventing anger…

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The “E” Life…..

In this world of  E-mails,  E-ticket,  E-paper, E-recharge, E-transfer and the latest E-Governance…    Never Forget “E-shwar ( God )”   who makes e-verything  e-asy  for  e-veryone  e-veryday.
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“E” is the most Eminent letter of the English Alphabet.
Men or Women don’t exist without “E”.
House or Home can’t be made without “E”.
Bread or Butter can’t be found without “E”.
“E” is the beginning of “existence” and the end of “trouble.”
It’s not at all there in ‘war’   ; but appears twice in ‘peace’.
It’s once in ‘hell’ but twice in ‘heaven’.
“E” is represented in ‘Emotions’    –  Hence,  all Emotional relations like Father, Mother, Brother,  Sister, Love & Friends have ‘e’ in them.
“E” also represents ‘Effort’ & ‘Energy’   – Hence to be ‘Better’ from good  where both “e” ‘s are added.
Without “e”, we would have no Love, Life, Friends or Hope
& ‘see’,  ‘hear’, ‘smell’, or ‘taste’ as well as   ‘eye’,   ‘ear’, ‘nose’ & ‘tongue’ are incomplete without “e”.
Hence GO with “E”    but without E-GO.
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Adjust …to make Life Easier !!

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An Engineer in a car manufacturing company designs a world class car. The owner is impressed with the outcome and praised him a lot.

However, While trying to bring out the car from the manufacturing area to the showroom, they realised that the car is 2 inches taller than the entrance.

The engineer felt very bad that he didn’t notice this one before creating the car.

The owner was also amazed and wondered as to how he would be able to take the car outside of the manufacturing area.

The painter said that they can bring out the car forcibly but there will be a few scratches on top of the car which could be touched up later on.

The engineer said that they can break the entrance, take the car out, and later re-do it.

The owner was not convinced with any of these ideas and felt like it is a bad sign to break or scratch

A Watchman who was closely observing all the drama; slowly approached the owner and expressed his desire to give an idea if they had no problem.

They all wondered what “New” this guy would tell them that all these experts could not give.

The watchman casually explained “The car is only a few inches taller than the entrance so, Simply release the air in the tyre, the height of the car will sink and so it can be easily taken out”…

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And it worked out – they could successfully bring out the Car without any scratch nor any damage to the entrance.

There is always a layman’s outlook that gives an alternate solution at any given point of time – very similar to many of our life issues.

You have to just “Release Some Air”  –  It could be Our Anger; Our  Disappointments; Our Egos; Our Confusions…..

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In the end it’s all about “Adjusting The Height (Attitude)” to make things more easier and simpler in life and un-complicate the various things in life.

 

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Memories of Childhood….

When I was a Child… My parents didn’t call my cell,  they yelled my name;  I played outside not online !!

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If I didn’t eat what my mother cooked then I didn’t eat anything., unlike today children create tantrums and eat stuff like pizza, burger or other fast food, parents also give in and try to satisfy children’s whims and fancies !

Remembering those awesome carefree childhood days !

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Childhood is like being drunk. Everyone remembers what you did EXCEPT YOU!

If You Carry Your Childhood With You, You Never Become Older, Childhood is all about being wild, having fun and enjoying a carefree life – So, Enjoy your childhood till it lasts… Keep the child inside you always alive then you will never feel Old..

Every child is a different kind of  flower and all together, make this world a beautiful garden.

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Memories ….

As the clock is ticking away… Memories of another year pass like a movie flashback !! Every Year End – we make resolutions for the next year and every New Year – we break those resolutions… Somedays there was a Desire to Live More while Some created an Urge to End Life while there were Somedays so full of Love, Life, Luck, Laughter while Some were spent in Doom, Distress, Despair, Death-like !!

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It makes me ponder that – Birth was not our Choice,  Death is also not our Choice,  But the way we Live our Life is Absolutely our Choice…So why not Enjoy Life Every Day as it is and make each day memorable.

I have learned a lot in this year; I learned that things don’t always turn out the way you have planned, or the way you think they should.. there are things that go wrong but always get fixed or get put back together the way they were before… However, some broken things stay broken, and you can get through bad times but still keep looking for better ones; as long as you have people who LOVE you..

In olden days, people maintained diaries & used to get Mad when someone read them… Now, they put everything Online & get Mad when people don’t read or like it.. How Times have changed over the years – impact of social media – loss of privacy.  It is the world of Presentations now – it all depends on how well you can present to the world !!

I started to pen my thoughts in my blog “ThoughtsofSho” this year – it has helped me to unwind, de-stress !!

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No one has that perfect life which begins with ‘Once upon a time’ and ends with ‘Happily ever after’… Life begins with ‘Welcome to the struggle’ and ends with ‘You are lucky to have survived the journey’…  Each day is a gift from God. If some days it seems like you got an empty box, God may be giving you your choice as to how you fill it.

Life has a become a routine : A slight break-down will make our life a standstill…  Mine is a small family – me, my husband and a daughter – My day begins at 4:30am – preparing breakfast, lunch, get ready to work, in between getting my family ready too;  I leave for my work at 6:30am; At office I am from 8am to 6pm; then return journey home with thoughts of whole day at office; plan the evening ahead; some family time (quantity is not possible but atleast quality time); then dinner; then preparations for the next day and finally hit the bed may be around 10:30-11:00pm; The circle must go on without any change ; Weekends give little leisure and more family time but also more of cleaning and other miscellaneous household activities  not done during the week… You also need to catch up friends’ birthdays / weddings; children’s school activities; close family events – good or bad, happy or sad ; health issue and above all update your social status on social media !!

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I remember a poem I learnt in school written by W Wordsworth “No time to stand beneath the boughs and stare as long as sheep and cows”….so true !!

Night will change into day without any effort on your part. But that’s just about all the help you will get from Mother Nature.  To succeed in Life, your physical and mental efforts are needed; so start now.

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Worry is like a mobile phone; you don’t like it ringing constantly and you don’t want to switch it off. Discipline your mind; switch off the constant ringing of problems and spend a few minutes thinking about things that make you smile…

I would like to close this way –  Yesterday is Past. Today is a fresh new start, a clean slate, the beginning of a new life… .Be Positive Always!!

 

 

 

Walking – Best Exercise !!

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“Walking” is the best exercise…

‘Walk Away’    from arguments that lead you to nowhere but anger.

‘Walk Away’    from people who deliberately put you down.

‘Walk Away’     from any thought that reduces your worth.

‘Walk Away’     from failures and fears that stifle your dreams.

The more you ‘Walk Away’ from things that poison your soul, the happier your life would be.

Gift Yourself A Walk Towards Happiness…!!!

Without Crossing The Worst Situations,  No One Can Touch The Best Corners Of Life;  Dare To Face Anything In Life –  ‘Winners Never Quit,  Quitters Never Win”  – Keep Walking !!

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Corporate Life !!

Even though it’s great to finally start earning and ‘be on your own’, corporate life is nothing like we imagine it to be in our younger years – It’s stressful and unrewarding. It  is more stressful if you are employed in a Private Sector.. A Private job is no service – only in Theory it is 9 to 5 job / 5 day week – however, in reality it is 24×7; It is just a trade wherein you sell your work, skill, aptitude, experience and time in return for the money (salary). You are needed only as long as your work is needed by the company. Once the need is over, no matter how good or bad you are or your performance, you will be said good bye. So better keep a strong focus on your life, your family and your skills which can bring you newer and better  job opportunities if the current one gets over. Don’t spoil your health and relationships by overworking just to make the CEO and the Board Members richer..

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A few harsh truths about corporate life – especially for employees in private sector.

Desk jobs kill creativity. Very often, you will be held accountable for tasks that weren’t even your responsibility in the first place.

You will be dealing with a dozen tasks other than what you were initially hired for. Your scope of work will only keep increasing. The more efficient you are at your work, the more you will be burdened with it. At the time of Appraisal; you will be remarked as – only routine work was done – no special efforts made – so there is scope for improvement !!

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Nobody cares about your individual progress in the corporate world. All that matters is what you contribute to the company. You will be constantly made to believe that you need the company more than it needs you.

After a few years of experience, you then tend to take up a job just for the money it gives you and nothing else. Job satisfaction etc. are all just words you hear in interviews and conferences..

If you’re sluggish, you’ll be ridiculed by your boss. If you’re proactive, you’ll be hated by your colleagues and co-workers. You will be made to work with the most uninspired people you may ever meet in your life. Your team-mates will never be of any help, nor would they allow you to take everything in your own hands, you will end up doing everything yourself, slowly it will start to kill your passion for the job which you took up so eagerly.

There will be times when undeserving people will get credit for the work you do, simply because they are higher up on the corporate ladder or due to office politics / boss’ favourites.

Half of your time will be spent in sending out unnecessary mails that will never even be read by the Recipients;

Nobody is going to appreciate you staying in extra hours every single day but the one day you leave on time or a little early, the whole organization will be searching for you for some important work not done by you.

Whichever new initiatives you volunteer for, will become your responsibility and then you will have to sit and wonder why did I suggest ??

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Workplace rules for a happy life: 

Trust no one but be polite to everyone. It doesn’t matter how people treat you. Be humble.

What happens in office remains in office. Never take office gossip home and vice versa.

Enter office on time, leave on time. Your desktop is not the world.

Expect nothing. If somebody helps, feel thankful. If not, you will learn to know how to do things on your own.

Never rush for position. If you get promoted, congrats. If not, it is still ok. You will always be remembered for your knowledge and human qualities, not for your designation.

Never run behind office stuff. You have better things to do in life.

Avoid taking everything on your ego. Your salary matters but remember that You are being paid for the work you do…so just keep doing your part of the task

In the end nothing matters except family, friends, home and inner peace…

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