“Woman Empowerment” – what does it mean?

With an increase in the population of “working women”, we often come across the word “Woman Empowerment” – what does it mean?

For me, Woman Empowerment means “equality of the sexes”. I am not those kind of ‘women’ who thinks that I am superior to men – I earn more than a man or I have power, fame, success etc. I would like to be considered just as “an Equal” in all respects irrespective of my gender.

In Todays’ world, I feel women are trying to be a ‘superwoman’ – she cooks, cleans, personally takes care of her child’s needs, she also boasts of a flourishing career! But if you observe closely – best part of all this is that nobody has forced her to excel in everything, it is a self-inflicted expectation !!

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We can clearly see that our mothers and grandmothers were so much healthier, happier and most importantly, more relaxed and stress-free. However, the Modern Woman is always working hard as if just to prove a point to someone !

In the process of self-empowerment & proving to others, we often choose to ignore our own voices or desires and never think about what we really want.

Over the years of making myself a Perfect Woman, I realized and have made a conscious decision to not get influenced by what others think of me. I admit that it was not an instant change, but gradually I have learnt to take everything with a pinch of salt – both compliments and negativity. This has immensely lightened and enlightened my mind. I feel relieved now – I don’t want to be a Super Woman – because already by human nature – a woman is a born “Multi-Tasker” – personally I am now trying to be positive in my approach;

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From the perspective of male colleagues, I have observed that Men with women supervisors /senior managers feel threatened in their work environment, and their emotions find negative expressions in their home and relationships outside the corporate world. They unleash their feelings and challenged masculinity to re-establish it. Maybe this has led to a rise in crimes inflicted on women; Also, there have been instances of women who have misused the various rules and laws which have been created for women’s empowerment, protection and representation as a weapon against men !!

It is often said that more than a Man, a Woman is an Enemy of another Woman.. it is difficult for a woman to see the success of another woman – she becomes jealous very soon. Personally, I gel well with male colleagues and can boast of a few very good male friends; but females are more into gossip / jealous kind. I still cannot understand why ?

This is just my personal point of view and also a few real life experiences – nothing against or for women.

I wish to share a recent personal experience – there was dance event in our office and all the lady colleagues had taken part, They had been deciding for quite a few days on the outfit, theme, celebrations etc right in front of my eyes. I was also very interested, but none of them even checked with me if I would join; on the D-day they were all performing on the stage, everyone was cheering and when the other team-mates enquired why was not part of them, I didn’t have any answer. I just walked away to my desk and started working, trying to ignore, but my male colleagues knew that I was emotionally down they tried to cheer me up. I still wonder why I am never invited by the ladies – am I ugly or do I look like a witch?

One more incident I would like to share – there used to be color days and all the ladies used to dress up in unique colours. Photo shoots would go on and when I joined, they would comment that it was only for glamorous young ladies; I felt very bad – from that day, I did not join for any group picture; when my photographer cousin came to know of this, we had a photoshoot and today, I can boast of a huge collection of my single unique photographs. I am happy!

I agree life is not easy. At the same time, we must not forget that life is beautiful depending on how you want to look at it.

Do you know just about ANYONE whose life is 100% perfect or someone who has no problems at all? No… If you analyze you will realise that you are far better off. This world has too many people living other peoples’ lives.

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Do what makes you happy inside. Be real. Be true. Be you . Being you will never go out of fashion…

We cannot change the behaviour, attitude or mindset of the people around us… But we can surely learn to change our way to react at their behavior.

“Keep smiling – I smile not because I am happy go lucky person, I smile because I find it hilarious to see people trying so hard to make me cry”

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Paraprosdokians…. Interesting !!!

Sentences that Throw you a Curve –   PARAPROSDOKIAN  is a figure of speech  in which the latter part of a sentence, phrase, or a larger discourse is surprising or unexpected in a way that causes the reader or listener to reframe or reinterpret the first part.  Frequently used for humorous or dramatic effect,  sometimes producing an anti-climax, extremely popular among comedians and satirists –  parprosdokian is a sentence which consists of two parts – The first is a figure of speech and the second an intriguing variation of the first !!

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Paraprosdokian is not an Armenian writer or football coach but a figure of speech characterized by an abrupt change of direction at the end. It is a phrase that intentionally leads us down the garden path, that misleads us into thinking one way, then suddenly ending on an unexpected twist. Stand-up comedians who like one-liners use lots of them, because the setup and punchline are all in a single line..p4

Paraprosdokian is a derivative of a Greek word which means “beyond expectation” and is used widely in common speech and literature.   Some paraprosdokians not only change the meaning of an early phrase, but they also play on the double meaning of a particular word, creating a form of syllepsis (a figure of speech in which a word is applied to two others of which it grammatically suits only one).

Paraprosdokians are linguistic brain scramblers..  A few interesting examples:

  • Where there’s a will, I want to be in it.
  • The last thing I want to do is hurt you…. but it’s still on my list.
  • Since light travels faster than sound, some people appear bright until you hear them speak.
  •  If I agreed with you, we’d both be wrong.
  •  We never really grow up…. we only learn how to act in public.
  •  War does not determine who is right, only who is left.
  •  Knowledge is knowing a tomato is a fruit. Wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad.
  •  To steal ideas from one person is plagiarism. To steal from many is research.
  •  I didn’t say it was your fault, I said I was blaming you.
  •  You do not need a parachute to skydive. You only need a parachute to skydive twice.
  •  I used to be indecisive, but now I’m not so sure.
  •  To be sure of hitting the target, shoot first and call whatever you hit the target.
  •  Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian, any more than standing in a garage makes you a car.
  •  You are never too old to learn something stupid.
  •  I am supposed to respect my elders, but it’s getting harder & harder for me to find one now.
  • A bus station is where a bus stops. A train station is where a train stops. On my desk, I have a work station.
  • How is it one careless match can start a forest fire, but it takes a whole box to start a campfire?
  • Why does someone believe you when you say there are four billion stars but check when you say the paint is wet?
  • Of all the people I have ever met, you could be one of them.
  • I asked God for a bike, but I know God doesn’t work that way, so I stole a bike and asked for forgiveness.
  • Whenever I fill out an application, in the part that says “If an emergency, notify. . . ,” I put “DOCTOR”
  • Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.
  • I always take life with a grain of salt, plus a slice of lemon, and a shot of tequila.
  • Change is inevitable, except from a vending machine.
  • In the morning I shot an elephant in my pajamas. How he got into my pajamas, I don’t know.
  • I’ve had a perfectly wonderful evening, but this wasn’t it.”
  • If I could just say a few words … I’d be a better public speaker.
  • I haven’t slept for 10 days, because that would be too long.
  • I sleep eight hours a day and at least ten at night.
  • On the other hand, you have different fingers.

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Spread the Laughter, Share the Cheer, Let’s Be Happy While We are here !!!

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Friendship……

Friendship is a silken tie of love and esteem which binds two persons usually unrelated by blood. It is a priceless possession which imparts sweetness of life. It is a blessing, which very few of us have been blessed with.   A friend is a gift of God…Real friend is a rare fortune. Friendship brings many joys.. True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils. Strive to have friends, for  a life without friends is like life on a desert island… to find one real friend in a lifetime is good fortune; to keep him is a blessing.

A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.

One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood.

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Never change the person that you are – just to fit in a group or friend circle. You will find your own circle of true friends that like you only for being you, and if you are happy with doing things that you genuinely enjoy, it shouldn’t matter what other people think.

It’s very hard to find true friends when your life is a bumpy ride full of twists and turns. But, I’m glad that amidst all the ramblings in my life I have managed to win some great friends..

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I define friendship as a bond that transcends all barriers and you are always ready to expect anything and everything  – good, bad or ugly – from your friends!!

A Few Famous Quotes on Friendship: 

  • A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow. – William Shakespeare
  • Wishing to be friends is quick work, but friendship is a slow ripening fruit. – Aristotle
  • Do I not destroy my enemies when I make them my friends? – Abraham Lincoln
  • An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind. – Buddha
  • The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, not the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when you discover that someone else believes in you and is willing to trust you with a friendship. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • Friendship is the only cement that will ever hold the world together. – Woodrow T. Wilson
  • Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend. — Albert Camus
  • Anybody can sympathize with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathise with a friend’s success. – Oscar Wilde 

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Finding Love outside Marriage…

Marriage is two hearts that beat as one and two souls that crave to be together… all very poetic and pleasing to the ear!   After the Honeymoon period and a few years of marriage,  the husband begins to stop pretending that his wife is Helen of Troy and begins looking around, albeit discreetly.  The wife is likewise occupied, emptying her spouse’s pocket to line her cupboard, buying expensive clothes, perfumes, accessories; in short, everything to stay attractive and ahead in the race. Extramarital affairs are as old as marriage itself is. The reasons why a man may have an affair or cheat and the reasons why a woman would have an affair and/or cheat her spouse are very different.

Since time immemorial, we have heard of and witnessed:

  • men going astray,
  • men not staying true to the one they love,
  • men falling for another woman, or
  • men leaving one woman for another.

What makes Men  stray, and cheat?  Is it temptation for the unknown, is it a need for adventure, or is it just that we fall out of love with one person and seek another?  There is no black and white answer to this.   I wish there were one reason, but technology also came in and made it a lot easier to get entangled today.

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One would immediately think sex is the biggest reason for men to cheat, but it turns out that it is not.  However, Issues in a relationship, like non-communication, emotional disconnect, boredom, compatibility issues, turn out to be the bigger reasons.

Marital bliss no more : Men tend to be more emotional than many of us give them credit. Non-communication, or rude behaviour could hurt their feelings as much as a woman’s. Sometimes men go in search of emotional solace in another woman who readily gives them the respect, dignity and tenderness they find no more in their primary relationship.

Fantasies:  To a certain extent, fantasies, fetishes, or plain attraction for another woman could be a reason. While many men are one-woman men, there are also men who are not satisfied with the same woman for a lifetime. Or it could just be the need to have more than one partner and curiosity about the other.

Old flames:  When our past comes back – Old girlfriends through social media and new apps, technology aiding men to hide and have easier flings are also a cause for affairs. Dissatisfaction with the present and a desire to revisit the past just to check, could lead to an affair.

Falling out of love:  Sometimes he simply doesn’t love her anymore. Love is elusive for most people; But for some – They never find love with one person, so they keep looking and seeking newer relationships till they find out that the problem lies with them.

Roving eye:  Some men simply can’t keep from looking at other women. While checking out is a done thing, pursuing, chasing, and conquering are a high for many such men. They are never satisfied with one partner and an affair is a compulsion.

Office affair :  This is common in modern times; usually is from an emotional fallout at home. Such relationships may begin as friendships and lead to something on business trips, with the comfort of being away from home.

No, it’s not at all connected to how you look, it’s the way how you make him feel. And sometimes, it may not be about you at all.  It may just be mid-life and existential crisis the man is going through as an individual.

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Going astray for a woman is much bigger a deal than a man cheating on his wife. A woman is very invested in her relationships. Due to changing times, women have done extremely well for themselves on the economic front, yet she still remains rooted in her belief system and values. So to have flings is one thing, but being in a marriage and seeking pleasure or companionship outside is not something a woman just does for fun. It is  really serious, that she is seeking solace in another person.

Why another man?    Women as creatures are intuitive. When things don’t work out, she knows its coming well in advance. Here are some reasons she could step out:

Technology :    A feeling of being neglected, not cherished and cared for may lead a woman to another man or even a woman.

Can’t forget her past :   Even though she is someone’s wife, she has feelings for her past lover. Though that affair didn’t lead to marriage, she kind of starts leaning backward again, if she gets disillusioned with her marriage. Sometimes women may still be in love with someone else.

Boredom of the drill  :  Wake up, clean potties, cook breakfast, get the home cleaned, get to work, shop for groceries, come back, cook dinner, and then crash. How many women get trapped in the usual day-to-day routine and get bored to death? An interesting new fresher walks in with the possibility of friendship, and an affair follows.

Neglect her and lose her:   Men forget to invest in a wife, it’s usually while she is the girlfriend that it’s all about her.  Once the battle is won, she may start feeling neglected and not cared for enough. Good enough reason to go looking out?

To be seen:   It’s easy for men these days to overlook what they have, with so much distraction everywhere, from magazines to the Internet, to real-life attractions. A woman craves to be seen by her loved one, and she may go where she feels seen.  Men, need to pay attention, now!

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We cannot predict the outcomes for the choices we make in our Life.  And the hardest thing to know is that in life you don’t have a “Ctrl+Z”  to undo, redo what is once done. You may go on to do something again, maybe better, maybe worse, but once it’s done, it stays done and it cannot be reversed…. So Choose Wisely !!!!

Always remember The 3 C s of Life:  Choices, Chances, Changes – You must make a choice to take a chance to change your life

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Core values that can make your marriage work:

  • Being honest with each other
  • Respecting each other’s views
  • Giving each other space within the relationship without being possessive
  • Trusting each other
  • Doing things together – like going on a vacation, spending a night out of home, communicating feelings

What is ironic is that one has to travel the same path of flowers, chocolates, gifts, candle-light dinners and romance to become lucky again !

The Tell Tale Signs:  Women have very strong instincts about their husbands. A straying hubby tries to hide it by turning extra loving towards his wife. A wife found her husband bringing her roses, acting very romantic all of a sudden, out of suspicion she started to probe on him and discovered him with his boss’ daughter, who was much younger than him! She walked out of the marriage, unable to stand the idea of being competed by a younger woman.  Another sign is when he suddenly begins to take special care of his appearance, wearing sexy clothes, spraying on that extra bit of aftershave, striving to lose weight or dyeing his hair. He turns secretive about his whereabouts, switches his mobile off, starts working overtime, and yet, is not in the office when his wife calls! Thus, there are examples galore of people seeking excitement outside marriage.

However, most times, the blame must point within… the excitement and love have gradually died down over the years, and no attempts have been made to revive it.  We must begin to identify the threats to one’s marriage and try to sort it out amicably before it gets out of control.  There are certain values that must not be forgotten, that actually enhance the sacred bond of matrimony.

“505 Likes” Milestone Achievement !!

“feeling so happy and proud”  Sincere Thanks to all my well-wishers – my friends, colleagues who inspired me to start blogging !!!

Milestone Achievement of 505 likes for my blogs  –https://wordpress.com/thoughtsofsho.wordpress.com/

My favourite tagline  “If memories are painful, leave them, make more beautiful memories, But for me my memories give me strength & My pain is my best medicine ”

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I had always been fond of reading and writing since my childhood, be it just scribbling notes in my personal diary about day-to-day events as well as reading romantic novels, short stories, english literature, fairy tales have always fascinated me – it is a very ideal place to vent out my built-up emotions !!
My Facebook page tagline – “To Love Somebody is not just a strong feeling; It is a decision, a judgement and a promise”
I fantasize a peaceful life full of luck, love and laughter – ofcourse with good food, clothing and shelter too; Dreams inspire us to live; because Reality is Too Scary sometimes !!
Very Ambitious ; Always Cheerful; Dreamer; Hard-working ; Self-Motivator; Positive Attitude ; Multi-Tasker; Friendly; Fun Loving; Humble; Honest., Fiery Aries….This is Shobha to the World…
There comes a point in your life when you realize: Who matters, Who never did, Who won’t anymore, And who always will. So, don’t worry about people from your past. There’s a reason why they didn’t make it to your future.
I shall pen my thoughts here as it flow into my mind !! Please Do Read, Comment, Share and Review my Writing…
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The Spirit of Team-Work

 

The very word TEAM implies: “TOGETHER  EVERYONE ACHIEVES MORE”

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Individual Talents get magnified many times over through the collective lens of an effective team…

It is rightly said “I can  do some things which you cannot; while you can do some things which I cannot; But together we can do Great Things”

When “I” is replaced by “WE” even “ILLNESS” becomes “WELLNESS”

I would like to share an old story here which depicts the spirit of “Team-work”:

A business man gets stranded in a lonely highway in the countryside; The tyres of his car get stuck badly in a mud pool.  He looks around for help and finally finds an old farmer.  So the businessman goes to him asking for help to get his car out of the mud.

The farmer gauges the situation, and agrees to help him and says, “Ok, let us take the help of Warwick”

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Warwick was an old bull around, but the helpless business man agrees.

The farmer ties the bull to the car and starts shouting loudly,  ” Fred, Pull .. Jack, Pull.. John, Pull… Warwick, Pull .”

As the farmer keeps shouting these words, the bull Warwick gets the car out of the pool of mud.

The businessman is relieved, but has a doubt in his mind.

He thanks the farmer and asks him, “you said the bull’s name was Warwick, and he was alone, then who were these Fred, Jack & John? ”

The Farmer coolly answered, “see, Warwick is old and is also blind. He does not know he is pulling this car alone. However, the moment he hears the other names, He thinks he is in a “team”, so he gives his “best”.

Moral :    

So is the case with all of us.

The very thought that there are people to help us, blesses us with a great deal of comfort, hope, confidence and encourages us to put in our heart and soul into any task that we undertake and thereby achieve the best results.

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Lesson:-

Indeed, the greatest civilizations have always been built on the foundations of a greater level of co-operation from their citizens and the smartest animals we know — apes, cows, bulls, elephants, wolves, dolphins, and crows — tend to live together in cooperative groups and work together for survival.

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“NO ONE CAN WHISTLE A SYMPHONY. IT TAKES AN ORCHESTRA TO PLAY IT.”

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Talent Wins Games – But Teamwork and Intelligence wins Championships !!

Teamwork divides the task and multiplies the success !!

Teamwork is the Secret that makes Common people to achieve Uncommon Results !!

There are a few qualities that each and every member of a successful team should possess in order to achieve the desired results of Effective Teamwork…
  • They communicate well with each other – communicate openly, honestly and at appropriate times.
  • They focus on goals and results – be flexible in approach and open to new ideas.
  • Everyone contributes their fair share.
  • They offer each other support – discussing possible changes to plans and also discussing alternatives to previously agreed plans, wherever necessary.
  • Team members are diverse – be willing to contribute and fully participate in moving towards group goals.
  • Good leadership – recognise the unique skills and abilities of others.
  • They are organised – ensuring personal goals do not impede attainment of group goals and working in a manner consistent with team goals.
  • They have fun together.

Drinking From The Saucer – Inspiring Poem by John Paul Moore

Why is it critical for us to recognize the blessings that are overflowing from our personal cups into our saucers?

Simply, it is God’s Wish that we acknowledge His hand in all things and we need to offer our thanks to Him.

 

This poem has been very inspirational to me because its message is not to be casually thankful for the obvious, rather, it points out the vast opportunities we have to acknowledge and be filled by the ever-flowing abundance of God’s love for us. Our imperfections set our own limitations on gratitude. We might be guilty of thanking Him for a limited amount of blessings because we have failed to put wide-angle lenses on our soul to see the vast quantity of blessings around us to really be thankful for. Some expressions of gratitude fall short of the God’s expectations.

Joy and happiness are born of gratitude – Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.

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poem about being happy with one’s life and helping others:

I have never made a fortune,
And I will never make one now
But it really doesn’t matter
Because I am happy anyhow

As I go along my journey
I am reaping better than I have sowed
I am drinking from the saucer
Because my cup has overflowed

I don’t have a lot of riches,
And sometimes the going’s tough
But with kin and friends to love me
I think I am rich enough

I thank God for the blessings
That His mercy has bestowed
I am drinking from the saucer
Because my cup has overflowed

He gives me strength and courage
When the way grows steep and rough
I will not ask for other blessings for
I am already blessed enough

May we never be too busy
To help bear another’s load
Then we will all be drinking from the saucer
When our cups have overflowed

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SMILE……….It comes from the Heart

SMILE – IT COMES FROM INSIDE –  From your heart, your mind, your mentality.

A Smile is Your perspective on life and No external event can ever change that. You can be going through hell, but your inside is solid, you will not break.  It is only you who can give yourself the means to be happy.  You can spend so much time trying to let external events bring you happiness, but only to realise that  this type of happiness is temporary and as soon as that moment is over, it is gone with it.  True happiness does not come from expensive gifts or any materialistic thing. It comes from the number of faces you can bring a smile on..

“Be the reason someone smiles today.  Sometimes it is your  own joy that  is the source of your smile, but many a times –  your smile itself can be the source of your joy.”

You choose to smile, to have a positive effect on people.   Your smile may be the reason for someone’s happiness, so always be the reason for someone to believe in the goodness of people..   A sweet smile is all what everybody needs!!

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The most powerful  yet the most pleasing tool in  the world is:

Money ?? 

NO 

It’s  SMILE

A Smile increases the face value of all,  travels through all barriers and melts the heart of even a stone-hearted person. A Smile is the only language that does-not differentiate between caste, greed, geographical background or social status !!  It’s a silent language understood by all.

A Smile represents the warm heart of person filled with affection, love, goodwill and efforts to give you blessings to have a wonderful day and life. A smile never asks what’s your bank balance. It only attracts people towards you. A smile always changes the mood of a person. Whenever you are feeling low or depressed, an innocent and affectionate smile from any person changes everything.  Whether it‘s your parents, relatives, friends, colleagues or anyone, if you are the reason behind their smile then it is the best feeling. It provides deep contentment.

Life is very short to keep grudges so live it by spreading love, happiness and collecting blessings from others.   Over a period of time, People tend to forget what you said and what you did but they will never forget how you made them feel in their time of need.

SO SMILE TO THE WORLD, AND THE WORLD WILL SMILE BACK AT YOU.

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Real Love and Relationships – similar to a Marathon…

To Love Somebody is not just a strong feeling; It is a decision, a judgement and a promise. That’s the true power of mutual love and commitment. It creates an impenetrable circle of love that can’t be broken from the outside…only from the inside.”

Courage does not come from the need to survive, or from a brute indifference inherited from someone else, but you get the courage from a driving need for love which no obstacles in this world or the next world will be able to break….

Real Love and Relationships is like a Marathon — From new love to lasting love, relationships go through five phases – passing through stages, getting support along the way, digging deep inside for answers, staying-power, and finally making it to the finish line called “real love.”

Stage One — Romance :    The romantic phase – At this point, falling in love is amazing, and we feel complete. We can’t get enough of each other. And neither of us can do anything wrong. Life is perfect, and we’re uncharacteristically positive. We are both on our best behavior because we only want to impress and please each other. “Finally, someone who understands me!”

But we need to analyse What’s wrong with this wonderful picture? Because If we build a relationship with the calculated behavior presented during the romance phase, instead of who the person really is, we will be surprised when we meet the rest of the person.

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Stage Two — Reality Check :  Now we start to wonder, “What happened to the person I first knew?” Of course, we are no longer in a relationship with that person because now we are starting to interacting with the flaws that weren’t visible through our romance filter.   Surprise! “This person has flaws !”  What was cute in the beginning is now feeling annoying.  We are often frustrated, and we have painful disagreements.

A helpful tip for stage two: Examine whether it’s possible to say to your partner: “I accept you just as you are, and you don’t need to change to meet my expectations.”

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Stage Three — Power Struggle :  Taking a time-out is usually about processing, but it can easily spiral down destructively if not checked.  Stage three is where disappointment turns into distress. We all want focused energy from our partners, and when they go on autopilot, we will do something to wake them up. And most of us know exactly what our partners can’t tolerate and which emotional missiles to fire at them. If our self-worth is strong, we will be kind. But if not — look out! Small annoyances are now big issues that remind us of childhood traumas and unresolved issues which we have dragged along into adulthood. Hidden agendas are revealed, which turn into power struggles.

We feel trapped, so resentments build. We think about divorce for the first time. Stage three may seem unbearable, but if survived, it can last decades.

Stage Four — Resignation :  In this stage at least there are fewer fights. There is less friction and differences are less threatening. We have both settled into autopilot, taking each other for granted and repeating unconscious mistakes.  Stage four is crucial; it’s either stalemate or soulmate!

There’s a sense of loss, and we have let go the fantasy of ever experiencing butterflies or rushes again. We no longer feel exclusive with each other, so we have re-established old friendships and outside interests. There’s the probability of giving up and drifting apart, mainly due to boredom from the predictability.

We accept that our relationship is non-traditional, and we view that as a “plus rather than as a problem”. We keep our relationship as our first priority, even when we are apart. And we don’t take each other for granted. When we are together, there’s excitement and appreciation, and when we are apart, there is anticipation. We both know that real love is not limited.

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Stage Five — New Awareness:   Stage five is where real love finally wins, and we have made a commitment to not settle for anything less. With everything we say or do, caring for each other is our first priority. We accept each other’s weaknesses, we collaborate to overcome challenges, and we never again blame our partner for being wrong. We don’t require him or her to do something or to be something in order to win our acceptance and approval. We are supportive best friends, and we back each other’s interests. Being together is based on shared purpose rather than need. And we share a joint vision of the future.

Marathon Talking : Two people set themselves apart from their normal routines, and they take turns talking for 48 hours. One talks for 24 hours while the other listens, and then they switch places. It sounds extreme, but it really works. Most people experience greater trust, understanding and acceptance, and they gain a new perspective

A helpful tip for stage five: Acknowledge that you and your partner are both right and no one is wrong, and that your interests cannot conflict because whatever is good for either of you is good for both of you.

I have some friends who are always in stage five. They never become frustrated with each other. They have a fabulous ability to laugh their way to agreement or disagreement – they don’t really seem to care which.

What’s their secret?

They like themselves – which makes it possible to like each other. What’s most important to know about maintaining stage five? If we don’t love ourselves, no one else will. Not because we are not love-able anymore, but because it’s not possible.

Getting past Stage Four is what relationships are all about.

Welcoming the New Year 2018…

One more year has gone but it has made us strong..
The path was long but we walked with a hope and a song..
There were fears, tears and cheers as we travelled through the year..
We know that God doesn’t require us to “BE the BEST..”
He just wants us to “DO our BEST..”

As The New Year Approaches, Promise
Yourself That You Will Make Positive
Changes In Your Life. Write It On Your Heart That Everyday Is Going To Be A Special Day In The New Year 2018…Cheers To The New Year Ahead !!

Wishing All of You A Year Full Of Happiness; Success; Peace; Prosperity;
Health & Wealth & Also A Year Full Of
Love & Laughter …

Wishing each one of You all the Happy Memories of 2017 and a great Journey ahead in 2018.

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