Dear Wife of My Darling Lover !!

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In Love with a Married Man…

an imaginary letter from the Lover to the Wife 

(Written from the point of view of the “other woman”) !!

The deep understanding we share, the uninhibited laughter, the common interests – when was the last time you experienced any of that? Because if you can’t remember any of those feelings, surely you must forgive me.  You may have been married for 15 years, and I have been your husband’s lover for just six months. You have been to places together, created a home and raising children together. I admire your attention to your personal details – your job, your body shaping and beauty enhancements. You are passionate about cleanliness, endlessly exhorting house-maid to keep the washed plates on the right side of the platform and not inside the drawers. How do I know all these things?

Dear wife of my beloved lover!! If you think that you are so perfect and so is your marriage, well what is your husband doing with me in the first place? I respect the institution of marriage very much but I respect love more!!

I do not expect society to accept something as twisted as a love affair.

I understand that having an affair with a married man is not ‘ethically or morally right’, but is this right that the entire society, including you – blame only me? You accuse me of trapping and misguiding your husband. What is he, a child? He is grown up, married, mature.  If despite all this, he was drawn towards me and I did not resist, how come when it comes down to the verdict of the greatly ethical society or you – why it is only me who is wrong? Doesn’t a relationship involve two people?

Your husband, the man who does all your shopping, is the father of your children, who runs your house, fulfills all your and your family’s desires, who couriers the medicines that your ailing parents requires, and who loves me passionately too. What is stronger – 15 years of togetherness, or six months of  passion?

Do you ever look at him with the same passion as I do? Do you have any idea of the drowsy sensual late-night conversations we both have from our respective beds?  “I love you and I want you so badly,” he says. He adores the way I keep my hair natural, all in waves. He loves the way I stay away from all the gyms you go to, the diets you follow. He doesn’t intend to compare, but your obsession with keeping yourself fit and attractive and hence avoiding the crazy ways he wants to be intimate in –  turns him off. My carefree nature and cravings for his love bites makes him feel alive with lust and desire.

But do you think I can have it all?  No, I still want so much more. I envy you so much – not because you stay together in the same home and share everything.  But wanting to do the small day-to-day routine things with him – like smelling his body odour before tossing his clothes for washing, holding his hand at a social gathering, cooking for him on a weekend… things that you probably take for granted. I struggle to come to terms with the fact that he makes stringent efforts to keep me at a distance and fights the feelings that he has for me.

But dear lady, forgive me if you ever come to know about us.

I’m glad that you will never see this letter… You need not know that he texts me first thing in the morning and converses with me the last thing at night before he sleeps. Those are the tiny bits and pieces of him that I have and I have learned to live with them.

I love him and I love him like crazy, because he loves me back!  There was no reason for not loving him, he seemed to be perfect for me from the day we began a relationship. I could have stopped myself from getting closer to him knowing that he was married and had a family.

But sometimes some things are just meant to happen…

I went ahead with my guts. Our small encounters grew into friendship, shared moments, work, pleasure, pain and a whole lot of travelling together. It was feeling very nice to meet him and know him better and closer. I became close to him; we shared a great bond and pulled off into a very close and friendly relationship (maybe a little more than friendship). Till then it was not a committed love, but it was not forgettable either.

I anyway do not understand the massive hue and cry on relationships in this country. Isn’t it an organic thing – sometimes marriages work, sometimes they don’t?

Why can’t we accept these things naturally and let go of the propaganda behind all this?

 As a society, we really need to let others be and concentrate on our lives.

Loyalty is great, love is greater and life is short. Let us live and let others live…

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When a celebrity walks out of a decades old marriage to marry someone way younger or older – we accept that quite easily… Why does it become so difficult when similar things happen with people we know a little better?

Sometimes a woman cannot resist temptation but having an affair with a married man is always risky…

But I promise, I’m not going to steal him away from you – because deep in my heart I know that he loves you, he respects you… maybe more than me… because you are his wife and will always be his better half !!   

And yes, I love you too – since we both have a strong emotional connection, where we are mad for the same man… just differently…

I am your friend – the Other Woman !!

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Sometimes I start doing an evaluation of my life….

Sometimes I start doing an evaluation of my life.

On one of those times, I came across the story of the driver Michael Shumacher.

When I studied his resume as an athlete I saw that he was:

🔵 Winner of the Grand Prix in 1991.

🔵 He was 7 times world champion of Formula 1.

🔵 Happiness was in his Being, but on a fateful day his story and his destiny completely changed due to a ski accident ….

🔵 Today, just 44 kilos in weight, struggling to “survive” since December 2013.

🔵 His wife has begun to sell their goods to cover the expenses and thus be able to keep him alive in a room in his house adapted to his needs , where he lies like a vegetable.

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Here comes a question:

🔵 Who is better than who?

🔵 Life can take directions never imagined.

🔵 It’s amazing how everything can change in an instant.

🔵 No one is exempt from anything.

🔵 And in no circumstances are these of any use:
Money,
Titles,
Fame,
Success,
Power.

We are all the same…

Then …

🔵why the pride?

🔵 Why the arrogance?

🔵 So Why so much attachment to material goods/wealth?

🔵 All we have is the day to day so that we can live it with passion and happiness, doing good, serving our God, our family and neighbors with full of joy and Gratitude.

🔵 We need to stop creating problems, claim insignificant things and always avoid everything that “takes our time and lives”.

🔵 Be careful not to lose someone who loves you and accepts you as you are.

🔵 As in the game of chess, in the end both the King and the Pawn are kept in the same box. In the end, we will all meet our end the same way.

🔵 It is worth examining what we have done or not done yet .

🔵 *We are born bringing nothing …we die without taking anything ! absolutely nothing!*

🔵 And the sad thing is that in the interval between life and death, we fight for what we did not bring and even more for what we will not take …

🔵 Think about that.
Let’s live more, let’s love more. Let’s always understand the other and be more tolerant

🔴 We must never forget that to be great – *You have to be humble*.

Family ánd friends, we need to share this truth please.

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We are a LIMITED Edition !!

Generation Z (also known as Post-Millennials, the iGeneration, Founders, Plurals, or the Homeland Generation) is the demographic cohort following the Millennials. … Gen Z processes information faster than other generations thanks to various computer and mobile applications, easy internet access, world exposure !!
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The birth years for each generation:
  • Gen Z, iGen, or Centennials: Born 1996 and later.
  • Millennials or Gen Y: Born 1977 to 1995.
  • Generation X: Born 1965 to 1976.
  • Baby Boomers: Born 1946 to 1964.
  • Traditionalists or Silent Generation: Born 1945 and before.    The Silent Generation refers to people who were born between 1925 and 1945. There are several theories as to where the label ‘Silent Generation‘ originated. The children who grew up during this time worked very hard and kept quiet.
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A youngster asked his grandfather “Grandpa! How did you people live before with:
  • No technology
  • No aeroplanes
  • No internet
  • No computers
  • No dramas
  • No TVs
  • No aircons
  • No cars
  • No mobile phones? “
 Granddad replied:    “Just like how your generation live today
  • No prayers
  • No compassion
  • No honor
  • No respect
  • No character
  • No shame
  • No modesty “
We, the people born between 1965 to 1995 are the blessed ones… Our life is  a living proof that we “Lived Life”.
  • We played until dusk; we never watched TV.
  • We played with real friends, not internet friends.
  •  If we ever felt thirsty, we drank tap water not bottled water.
  •  We never got ill sharing the same glass of juice with four friends.
  • Nothing happened to our feet despite roaming barefoot.
  • We never used any supplements to keep ourselves healthy.
  • We used to create our own toys and play with those.
  •  Our parents were not so rich. They gave love.. not worldly materials.
  • We never had cellphones, DVDs, play station, XBox, video games, personal computers, internet, chat – but we had real friends.
  • We visited our friend’s home un-invited and enjoyed food with them.
  • We may have been in black and white photos but you can find colourful memories in those photos.

We are a unique and the most understanding generation, because :

we are the last generation who listened to their parents… and also the first who have had to listen to their children….

We are a LIMITED edition !
Enjoy us. Learn from us. Treasure us.

Finding Love outside Marriage…

Marriage is two hearts that beat as one and two souls that crave to be together… all very poetic and pleasing to the ear!   After the Honeymoon period and a few years of marriage,  the husband begins to stop pretending that his wife is Helen of Troy and begins looking around, albeit discreetly.  The wife is likewise occupied, emptying her spouse’s pocket to line her cupboard, buying expensive clothes, perfumes, accessories; in short, everything to stay attractive and ahead in the race. Extramarital affairs are as old as marriage itself is. The reasons why a man may have an affair or cheat and the reasons why a woman would have an affair and/or cheat her spouse are very different.

Since time immemorial, we have heard of and witnessed:

  • men going astray,
  • men not staying true to the one they love,
  • men falling for another woman, or
  • men leaving one woman for another.

What makes Men  stray, and cheat?  Is it temptation for the unknown, is it a need for adventure, or is it just that we fall out of love with one person and seek another?  There is no black and white answer to this.   I wish there were one reason, but technology also came in and made it a lot easier to get entangled today.

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One would immediately think sex is the biggest reason for men to cheat, but it turns out that it is not.  However, Issues in a relationship, like non-communication, emotional disconnect, boredom, compatibility issues, turn out to be the bigger reasons.

Marital bliss no more : Men tend to be more emotional than many of us give them credit. Non-communication, or rude behaviour could hurt their feelings as much as a woman’s. Sometimes men go in search of emotional solace in another woman who readily gives them the respect, dignity and tenderness they find no more in their primary relationship.

Fantasies:  To a certain extent, fantasies, fetishes, or plain attraction for another woman could be a reason. While many men are one-woman men, there are also men who are not satisfied with the same woman for a lifetime. Or it could just be the need to have more than one partner and curiosity about the other.

Old flames:  When our past comes back – Old girlfriends through social media and new apps, technology aiding men to hide and have easier flings are also a cause for affairs. Dissatisfaction with the present and a desire to revisit the past just to check, could lead to an affair.

Falling out of love:  Sometimes he simply doesn’t love her anymore. Love is elusive for most people; But for some – They never find love with one person, so they keep looking and seeking newer relationships till they find out that the problem lies with them.

Roving eye:  Some men simply can’t keep from looking at other women. While checking out is a done thing, pursuing, chasing, and conquering are a high for many such men. They are never satisfied with one partner and an affair is a compulsion.

Office affair :  This is common in modern times; usually is from an emotional fallout at home. Such relationships may begin as friendships and lead to something on business trips, with the comfort of being away from home.

No, it’s not at all connected to how you look, it’s the way how you make him feel. And sometimes, it may not be about you at all.  It may just be mid-life and existential crisis the man is going through as an individual.

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Going astray for a woman is much bigger a deal than a man cheating on his wife. A woman is very invested in her relationships. Due to changing times, women have done extremely well for themselves on the economic front, yet she still remains rooted in her belief system and values. So to have flings is one thing, but being in a marriage and seeking pleasure or companionship outside is not something a woman just does for fun. It is  really serious, that she is seeking solace in another person.

Why another man?    Women as creatures are intuitive. When things don’t work out, she knows its coming well in advance. Here are some reasons she could step out:

Technology :    A feeling of being neglected, not cherished and cared for may lead a woman to another man or even a woman.

Can’t forget her past :   Even though she is someone’s wife, she has feelings for her past lover. Though that affair didn’t lead to marriage, she kind of starts leaning backward again, if she gets disillusioned with her marriage. Sometimes women may still be in love with someone else.

Boredom of the drill  :  Wake up, clean potties, cook breakfast, get the home cleaned, get to work, shop for groceries, come back, cook dinner, and then crash. How many women get trapped in the usual day-to-day routine and get bored to death? An interesting new fresher walks in with the possibility of friendship, and an affair follows.

Neglect her and lose her:   Men forget to invest in a wife, it’s usually while she is the girlfriend that it’s all about her.  Once the battle is won, she may start feeling neglected and not cared for enough. Good enough reason to go looking out?

To be seen:   It’s easy for men these days to overlook what they have, with so much distraction everywhere, from magazines to the Internet, to real-life attractions. A woman craves to be seen by her loved one, and she may go where she feels seen.  Men, need to pay attention, now!

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We cannot predict the outcomes for the choices we make in our Life.  And the hardest thing to know is that in life you don’t have a “Ctrl+Z”  to undo, redo what is once done. You may go on to do something again, maybe better, maybe worse, but once it’s done, it stays done and it cannot be reversed…. So Choose Wisely !!!!

Always remember The 3 C s of Life:  Choices, Chances, Changes – You must make a choice to take a chance to change your life

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Core values that can make your marriage work:

  • Being honest with each other
  • Respecting each other’s views
  • Giving each other space within the relationship without being possessive
  • Trusting each other
  • Doing things together – like going on a vacation, spending a night out of home, communicating feelings

What is ironic is that one has to travel the same path of flowers, chocolates, gifts, candle-light dinners and romance to become lucky again !

The Tell Tale Signs:  Women have very strong instincts about their husbands. A straying hubby tries to hide it by turning extra loving towards his wife. A wife found her husband bringing her roses, acting very romantic all of a sudden, out of suspicion she started to probe on him and discovered him with his boss’ daughter, who was much younger than him! She walked out of the marriage, unable to stand the idea of being competed by a younger woman.  Another sign is when he suddenly begins to take special care of his appearance, wearing sexy clothes, spraying on that extra bit of aftershave, striving to lose weight or dyeing his hair. He turns secretive about his whereabouts, switches his mobile off, starts working overtime, and yet, is not in the office when his wife calls! Thus, there are examples galore of people seeking excitement outside marriage.

However, most times, the blame must point within… the excitement and love have gradually died down over the years, and no attempts have been made to revive it.  We must begin to identify the threats to one’s marriage and try to sort it out amicably before it gets out of control.  There are certain values that must not be forgotten, that actually enhance the sacred bond of matrimony.

Awareness post.. Social media 🤱😲

 

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Recently seen a young girl brought to my clinic for checkup .

She was brought by mother for a THROUGH Checkup.
Mother suspected that the daughter had Sexual Intercourse (with consent) or was molested by a friend.
On detailed history and examination, her apparent “Friend” was an equally Young boy whom she got to know over “Instagram” only 10 days ago😱.
This was followed by a brief ‘Making out session’ in a hotel room.☺
Mothers please be very alert and cautious with teenage children around.
Communication is the key for most of the adolescent problems .
Avoid Smart phones till children are 18 or more.
If not possible,then Keep yourself updated,
keep check on their posts and especially photos on Instagram.
Checks on Snapchat etc.

Welcome to New Age Parenting.

M.D. Dr.. Obstetrics and Gynaecology

Weekend…

Weekends are great and everyone loves them. 

  • We all have hobbies and wish lists.
  • We want to spend time with our families and friends and create marvellous memories together.
  • We want to be able to escape the race and do nothing once in a while.

For all these reasons and many others, we love weekends so much.

  • Weekends should be spent going what we want best, even if the only thing we want is enjoying our own company.
  • We need time alone to reconnect with our inner selves and to find a sense of inner balance.
  • Going away for the weekend somewhere where nothing can bother us can do wonders.

Oldtimers, weekends, and airplane landings are alike. If you can walk away from them, they’re successful.

Many wild and crazy things can happen on a weekend. If we can walk to work on Monday morning and have a good, productive day, it does not matter what we did during the weekend. It is our freedom to decide how we want to spend our free time.

Music always sounds better on Friday. 

On Friday, everything feels easier and better because the thought of freedom lingers in our minds. The sense of anticipation and the expectations we have for the weekend make us restless, yet already more receptive to fun things, such as music.

Fridays are the hardest in some ways: you’re so close to freedom. 

In some ways, Fridays are both the easiest and hardest days. The work feels easier with the thought of the weekend on our minds, but our restlessness makes it harder to focus. Friday is a day of passage, with freedom waiting just outside the door.

Why is Monday so far away from Friday and Friday so close to Monday? 

Monday and Friday are in weird positions. They are so close to the weekend, yet they’re still working days. Every Monday we hope that Friday comes sooner, and every Friday we dread the thought of Monday. In between, we have the weekend, our favorite days,  It is refreshing to know that we can still have a great weekend, even without making plans or having an actual schedule. Staying at home and doing nothing is a perfectly reasonable way to spend a weekend. We don’t have to check things off a list to feel happy and at peace.

Better days are coming. They are called Saturday and Sunday. 

Whenever we feel down, we remember that Saturday and Sunday are coming, giving us the chance to decompress and regain some strength. The most beloved days of the week, Saturday and Sunday are always there to cheer us up.  A good weekend is usually about forgetting about plans or goals, and just going with the flow, even if we end up doing pointless, unproductive things. The beautiful thing about the weekend is that we can do whatever we want without feeling guilty for it.

The only reason why we ask other people how their weekend was is so we can tell them about our own weekend. 

Weekends are always the highlight of our week, that is why we love to share with others the amazing things we did. Asking other people about their weekends is a great way to start a fun and interesting conversation, and hear tips about great places or great activities.

Sunday clears away the rust of the whole week. 

A good Sunday can make us forget all the hardships and struggles of a tough working week while preparing us for a fresh new start.  Sundays are all about rest, peace, and good vibes that refill our reserve of energy and vitality. We are always waiting for the weekend like we would wait on a best friend to visit us. The weekend is our chance to have some time for ourselves by leaving behind all obligations and responsibilities. The weekend is all about us and our desires.

It’s a fine line between Saturday night and Sunday morning. 

On Saturday night it feels like anything can happen. It is a long night that is often hard to forget. When we wake up on Sunday morning, we have a new great story to share with friends and new memories to keep us happy during the week.

I believe that it is a mandatory Law of the Universe that on Fridays, you have to do something a little fun. 

To ensure a good start for the weekend, we can begin by adding small doses of fun to our daily routine. Especially on Fridays, doing something fun can set the tone for an amazing Saturday and Sunday. A great mood is contagious.

Hands up if you’re ready to do something you’ll regret this weekend. Go forth! You have my blessing. 

If we spend the whole week at work, the weekend is all about freedom and spontaneity. On weekends, we are allowed to let go of any restrictions, inhibitions, and fears, and to do all the crazy things we always wanted to do.

Always strive to excel, but only on weekends. 

If we strive for excellence in our work, we should strive for excellent weekends as well. Weekends are moments we regain for ourselves and the moments when we create some of our best memories. Great weekends give us enough energy so we can the best in both our personal and professional lives.

Weekends are a bit like rainbows; they look good from a distance but disappear when you get up close to them. 

In some tough weeks, weekends are like the light at the end of the tunnel. We can barely wait for the weekend to begin, yet as soon as it’s weekend we realize how many things we would like to go and how little time we have.

There aren’t enough days in the weekend.

The weekend is always too short for all the things we would like to do. Even worse, time flies very fast when we are doing fun things. The only way to extend our weekend is to take a job that makes all weekdays interesting and exciting.

Be in the habit of getting up bright and early on the weekends. Why waste such precious time in bed? 

Waking up early on the weekends seems like a tough thing to do. After all, weekends are for leisure and relaxation.  While it is true, waking up early gives us more time to do the things we love. Moreover, maintaining the same schedule the whole week makes it easier to wake up. A good weekend does not have to be about wild parties and crazy, spontaneous adventures. At least once in a while, we can spend our weekends on simple pleasures that give our bodies and our minds the chance to rest and relax

Sunday evenings often feel like the weekend is over before it’s even begun. 

Sunday evening is that moment of the weekend when we realize that the fun is over and we have to prepare to take over our adult responsibilities again. At few other times, we feel so acutely how fast our days go by, and how much we need the weekend.

Why wait for the weekend to have fun. 

Everyone expects the weekend like it would be a promise of fun and happiness. The fact that we wait for the weekend to have fun tells us that we don’t really know how to make our entire week a fun ride. We don’t have to wait for the weekend to enjoy every second of our lives.

A Sunday well spent brings a week of content.

If Saturday is for fun, Sunday is perfect for relaxing and restoring some energy for the new week ahead. When we spend our Sunday well, we start the new week in a positive mood that will allow us to make the most of our days.

Spend some time this weekend on home improvement; improve your attitude toward your family.

Weekends are a great opportunity to spend some quality time with our families. Everyone is free of other responsibilities so we can devote some attention to the people we love, either sharing some meaningful conversations or doing some fun activity together.

Life is a wretched gray Saturday, but it has to be lived through. 

The worst that can happen on a Saturday is having bad weather ruining all our weekend plans. Bad weather will change our plans, but it does not have to actually ruin our entire weekend. Life often puts us in unexpected scenarios like this, but our resilience should be stronger than that.  In our modern times, productivity is so ingrained in our values that we feel guilty for our spare time. Weekends might not be productive, but they are about doing things we enjoy, so we can remain healthy and happy people.

The feeling of Sunday is the same everywhere, heavy, melancholy, standing still. 

Everywhere in the world, people love the weekend and dread the end of it. Sundays, especially, seem to have the same flavor everywhere. If on Saturdays, some people party, some relax, and others spend time with thier family, Sundays are the same for everyone, melancholic and serene.

Weekends are sacred for me. They’re the perfect time to relax and spend time with family and friends. 

When our work goes through moments of pressure, we feel that it is easy to give up on a weekend to work since we don’t seem to do much on weekends anyway. This is a fallacious way to think. Our minds and our bodies need rest, otherwise, we cannot stay strong for a long time.

On the Sixth Day, God created man, the sort of result you often get when you go in to work on a Saturday. 

Nobody wants to be at work on Saturday, that is why there is no wonder then jobs done on Saturday do not maintain the same level of efficiency as in other days of the week. On Saturdays, we already have five other days of work behind, and our energy is very low.

I’d be quite happy if I spent from Saturday night until Monday morning alone in my apartment. 

When other people share stories about the fun they had during the weekend, others might feel guilty if they don’t have an interesting story to share. For some people being alone in their cozy homes is a perfect way to spend their weekend, and they don’t need to apologize for that.

I still work weekends because I like it; I enjoy it. I just don’t care. 

There are people for whom weekdays or weekends don’t bring much difference. They are the kind of people who love what they do and who strive for excellence. When our work is our passion, the line between spare time and working time is very blurry.

Unless it’s an emergency, don’t bother me after 6:00 p.m. and on weekends. 

It is allowed to be selfish on the weekends. It is our right not to be available for work calls, meetings, and other types of obligations. If we give our best for five days per week, keeping two days to spend as we please is not only reasonable but also necessary for our well-being.

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Festival of Colours – HOLI…

The Hindu festival of Holi marks the end of Winter and beginning of Spring.
It is also the day to forgive your enemies and let go of all grudges.

Celebrate Holi with vibrant colours .. Every day needs to be colorful, but seldom it is. So, stock up for a whole year! Happy Holi !!

May your life be filled with happiness and may you be successful in whatever you do.

Wishing all my friends and family… a very Happy Holi..

Play with safe colours….

One should not only burn pieces of wood to lit fire on the occasion of Holi होलिका दहन…🔥🔥 But burn Ego, Hatred, Laziness, Bad Thoughts, Jealousy… and lit the Flame of Happiness and Love…!!

Holi ( होली ), also known as the “festival of colours”, is an Indian spring festival celebrated all across the Indian subcontinent as well as in countries with large Indian subcontinent diaspora populations such as Jamaica, Suriname, Guyana, Trinidad and Tobago, South Africa, Malaysia, the United Kingdom, the United States, Canada, Mauritius, and Fiji.  It signifies the victory of good over evil, the arrival of spring, end of winter, and for many a festive day to meet others, play and laugh, forget and forgive, and repair broken relationships.  It is also celebrated as a thanksgiving for a good harvest.  It lasts for a night and a day, starting on the evening of the Purnima (Full Moon day) falling in the Vikram Samvat Hindu Calendar month of Phalguna, which falls somewhere between the end of February and the middle of March in the Gregorian calendar. The first evening is known as Holika Dahan or Chhoti Holi and the following day as Holi, Rangwali Holi, Dhuleti, Dhulandi, or Phagwah.

Holi is an ancient Hindu religious festival which has become popular with non-Hindus in many parts of South Asia, as well as people of other communities outside Asia. In recent years the festival has spread to parts of Europe and North America as a spring celebration of love, frolic, and colours

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Holi celebrations start on the night before Holi with a Holika Dahan where people gather, perform religious rituals in front of the bonfire, and pray that their internal evil be destroyed the way Holika, the sister of the demon king Hiranyakashipu, was killed in the fire. The next morning is celebrated as Rangwali Holi – a free-for-all festival of colours, where people smear each other with colours and drench each other. Water guns and water-filled balloons are also used to play and colour each other. Anyone and everyone is fair game, friend or stranger, rich or poor, man or woman, children and elders. The frolic and fight with colours occurs in the open streets, open parks, outside temples and buildings. Groups carry drums and other musical instruments, go from place to place, sing and dance.

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People visit family, friends and foes to throw coloured powders on each other, laugh and gossip, then share Holi delicacies, food and drinks. Some customary drinks include bhang (made from cannabis), which is intoxicating.In the evening, after sobering up, people dress up and visit friends and family

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Holi, the festival of colours marks the victory of the good over the evil. It teaches us lessons about the greatness of God,  God alone is the Supreme Truth, Devotion to God has tremendous powers. Faith can create miracles. Ego, pride, anger, hatred and jealousy will ruin mankind.

Story of Holi.. Holika goes like this :

Prahlada was born to demon king Hiranyakashipu and his wife Kayadu. While he was in his mother’s womb, he had heard about the greatness of Lord Vishnu.   Hiranyakashipu was a tyrant of sorts who had been granted a boon that made him invincible. According to the boon, he couldn’t be killed either by a man or an animal; he couldn’t be killed either during the day or at night; he couldn’t be killed neither on land nor up in the air; he couldn’t be killed neither indoors nor outdoors and by weapons made by man. He relished the fact that none could kill him. He detested other’s spiritual inclination and hence forced his subjects to chant his name.

On learning that his own son Prahlada was spiritually inclined towards Lord Vishnu, he made several attempts to dissuade him. He tried to poison his son, get him trampled by elephants and made various attempts to eliminate him. But Prahlada survived even the deadliest of attacks. So Hiranyakashipu reached out to his sister Holika who was granted a boon that could save her from fire. He made Prahlada sit on her lap as she occupied a pyre that was meant to be burnt. Prahlada survived but Holika was reduced to ashes despite the boon.  Hiranyakashipu couldn’t believe his eyes. But a tyrant that he was, he refused to surrender to his son Prahlada’s devotion for Lord Vishnu. He dared the little boy to prove God was omnipresent. He asked if God existed in the pillar of his palace. The little boy confidentially said “yes”. In a fit of rage, Hiranyakashipu broke the pillar with his mace and to his horror found a half-man-half-lion being pouncing on him ferociously.

It was Lord Vishnu in his Narasimha avatar. He held Hiranyakashipu on his lap, tore his torso apart with his nails at twilight on the threshold of a courtyard thereby killing the demon king.

The Holi festival has a cultural significance among various Hindu traditions of the Indian subcontinent. It is the festive day to end and rid oneself of past errors, to end conflicts by meeting others, a day to forget and forgive. People pay or forgive debts, as well as deal anew with those in their lives. Holi also marks the start of spring, for many the start of the new year, an occasion for people to enjoy the changing seasons and make new friends.