Actions…. Karma !!

Deeds are of supreme importance in this universe. Whatever a person does, he is punished or rewarded accordingly. The life that we get on this Earth is a blessing of our own past and present Karmas. All the small sins done, intentionally or unintentionally contribute to our sufferings. When you are in pain or suffering, don’t Blame God.
Half of your worries will vanish away when you attain an understanding and acceptance about the fact that you have done something wrong in life, you are dearly sorry about it and you are repenting enough. Remaining half you have to understand that there exist “Karma”, so what goes around comes around. You will have to repay for your deeds in any possible way..

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Make promise to yourself, watch your actions, do good. You will be at peace mentally and emotionally. Everything heals. Your heart heals. The mind heals. Wounds heal. Your happiness is always going to come back. Bad times don’t last. Rather be grateful to bad times. It’s through the difficult times in our life, that we are able to grow. It’s when we are tested that we are able to rise, push through and come out the other side stronger, braver and better. The truth is, there are some important lessons in life that we are only taught through difficult times and they can become the silver lining to the darkness.

Life Upside-Down

You come to know who your real friends are. Eventually, you will learn who really matters. Nothing builds our strength, Nothing forces us to leverage what we have, dig deep and come up with every ounce of integrity, patience and strength like a hard time. Bad phase alters us and change the way we view our lives. We have learned who and what matters in our life and undoubtedly we have a greater appreciation for them. Surviving hardship gives us a broader perspective on what hardship really is. You will look back on the things you use to complain about and be thankful they are your only worries. After we have survived, we are given a deep gratitude for our life.

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To find the light, we have to go through darkness. In the midst of it, take a deep breath and Be thankful to god for the hard times, every struggle in your life has shaped you into person you are today

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Finding Love outside Marriage…

Marriage is two hearts that beat as one and two souls that crave to be together… all very poetic and pleasing to the ear!   After the Honeymoon period and a few years of marriage,  the husband begins to stop pretending that his wife is Helen of Troy and begins looking around, albeit discreetly.  The wife is likewise occupied, emptying her spouse’s pocket to line her cupboard, buying expensive clothes, perfumes, accessories; in short, everything to stay attractive and ahead in the race. Extramarital affairs are as old as marriage itself is. The reasons why a man may have an affair or cheat and the reasons why a woman would have an affair and/or cheat her spouse are very different.

Since time immemorial, we have heard of and witnessed:

  • men going astray,
  • men not staying true to the one they love,
  • men falling for another woman, or
  • men leaving one woman for another.

What makes Men  stray, and cheat?  Is it temptation for the unknown, is it a need for adventure, or is it just that we fall out of love with one person and seek another?  There is no black and white answer to this.   I wish there were one reason, but technology also came in and made it a lot easier to get entangled today.

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One would immediately think sex is the biggest reason for men to cheat, but it turns out that it is not.  However, Issues in a relationship, like non-communication, emotional disconnect, boredom, compatibility issues, turn out to be the bigger reasons.

Marital bliss no more : Men tend to be more emotional than many of us give them credit. Non-communication, or rude behaviour could hurt their feelings as much as a woman’s. Sometimes men go in search of emotional solace in another woman who readily gives them the respect, dignity and tenderness they find no more in their primary relationship.

Fantasies:  To a certain extent, fantasies, fetishes, or plain attraction for another woman could be a reason. While many men are one-woman men, there are also men who are not satisfied with the same woman for a lifetime. Or it could just be the need to have more than one partner and curiosity about the other.

Old flames:  When our past comes back – Old girlfriends through social media and new apps, technology aiding men to hide and have easier flings are also a cause for affairs. Dissatisfaction with the present and a desire to revisit the past just to check, could lead to an affair.

Falling out of love:  Sometimes he simply doesn’t love her anymore. Love is elusive for most people; But for some – They never find love with one person, so they keep looking and seeking newer relationships till they find out that the problem lies with them.

Roving eye:  Some men simply can’t keep from looking at other women. While checking out is a done thing, pursuing, chasing, and conquering are a high for many such men. They are never satisfied with one partner and an affair is a compulsion.

Office affair :  This is common in modern times; usually is from an emotional fallout at home. Such relationships may begin as friendships and lead to something on business trips, with the comfort of being away from home.

No, it’s not at all connected to how you look, it’s the way how you make him feel. And sometimes, it may not be about you at all.  It may just be mid-life and existential crisis the man is going through as an individual.

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Going astray for a woman is much bigger a deal than a man cheating on his wife. A woman is very invested in her relationships. Due to changing times, women have done extremely well for themselves on the economic front, yet she still remains rooted in her belief system and values. So to have flings is one thing, but being in a marriage and seeking pleasure or companionship outside is not something a woman just does for fun. It is  really serious, that she is seeking solace in another person.

Why another man?    Women as creatures are intuitive. When things don’t work out, she knows its coming well in advance. Here are some reasons she could step out:

Technology :    A feeling of being neglected, not cherished and cared for may lead a woman to another man or even a woman.

Can’t forget her past :   Even though she is someone’s wife, she has feelings for her past lover. Though that affair didn’t lead to marriage, she kind of starts leaning backward again, if she gets disillusioned with her marriage. Sometimes women may still be in love with someone else.

Boredom of the drill  :  Wake up, clean potties, cook breakfast, get the home cleaned, get to work, shop for groceries, come back, cook dinner, and then crash. How many women get trapped in the usual day-to-day routine and get bored to death? An interesting new fresher walks in with the possibility of friendship, and an affair follows.

Neglect her and lose her:   Men forget to invest in a wife, it’s usually while she is the girlfriend that it’s all about her.  Once the battle is won, she may start feeling neglected and not cared for enough. Good enough reason to go looking out?

To be seen:   It’s easy for men these days to overlook what they have, with so much distraction everywhere, from magazines to the Internet, to real-life attractions. A woman craves to be seen by her loved one, and she may go where she feels seen.  Men, need to pay attention, now!

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We cannot predict the outcomes for the choices we make in our Life.  And the hardest thing to know is that in life you don’t have a “Ctrl+Z”  to undo, redo what is once done. You may go on to do something again, maybe better, maybe worse, but once it’s done, it stays done and it cannot be reversed…. So Choose Wisely !!!!

Always remember The 3 C s of Life:  Choices, Chances, Changes – You must make a choice to take a chance to change your life

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Core values that can make your marriage work:

  • Being honest with each other
  • Respecting each other’s views
  • Giving each other space within the relationship without being possessive
  • Trusting each other
  • Doing things together – like going on a vacation, spending a night out of home, communicating feelings

What is ironic is that one has to travel the same path of flowers, chocolates, gifts, candle-light dinners and romance to become lucky again !

The Tell Tale Signs:  Women have very strong instincts about their husbands. A straying hubby tries to hide it by turning extra loving towards his wife. A wife found her husband bringing her roses, acting very romantic all of a sudden, out of suspicion she started to probe on him and discovered him with his boss’ daughter, who was much younger than him! She walked out of the marriage, unable to stand the idea of being competed by a younger woman.  Another sign is when he suddenly begins to take special care of his appearance, wearing sexy clothes, spraying on that extra bit of aftershave, striving to lose weight or dyeing his hair. He turns secretive about his whereabouts, switches his mobile off, starts working overtime, and yet, is not in the office when his wife calls! Thus, there are examples galore of people seeking excitement outside marriage.

However, most times, the blame must point within… the excitement and love have gradually died down over the years, and no attempts have been made to revive it.  We must begin to identify the threats to one’s marriage and try to sort it out amicably before it gets out of control.  There are certain values that must not be forgotten, that actually enhance the sacred bond of matrimony.

Awareness post.. Social media 🤱😲

 

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Recently seen a young girl brought to my clinic for checkup .

She was brought by mother for a THROUGH Checkup.
Mother suspected that the daughter had Sexual Intercourse (with consent) or was molested by a friend.
On detailed history and examination, her apparent “Friend” was an equally Young boy whom she got to know over “Instagram” only 10 days ago😱.
This was followed by a brief ‘Making out session’ in a hotel room.☺
Mothers please be very alert and cautious with teenage children around.
Communication is the key for most of the adolescent problems .
Avoid Smart phones till children are 18 or more.
If not possible,then Keep yourself updated,
keep check on their posts and especially photos on Instagram.
Checks on Snapchat etc.

Welcome to New Age Parenting.

M.D. Dr.. Obstetrics and Gynaecology

Escape !!

The Minister on a Tower

 

Life easy

There was once a minister to a great king. He fell into disgrace.

The king, as a punishment, ordered him to be shut up in the top of a very high tower. This was done, and the minister was left there to perish.

He had a faithful wife, however, who came to the tower at night and called to her husband at the top to know what she could do to help him.

He told her to return to the tower the following night and bring with her a long rope, some stout twine, pack thread, silken thread, a beetle, and a little honey.

Wondering much,

the good wife obeyed her husband,

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brought him the desired articles.

The husband directed her to attach the silken thread firmly to the beetle, then to smear its horns with a drop of honey, and to set it free on the wall of the tower, with its head pointing upwards. She obeyed all these instructions, and the beetle started on its long journey.

Smelling the honey ahead it slowly crept on wards, in the hope of reaching the honey, until at last it reached the top of the tower, when the minister grasped the beetle, and got possession of the silken thread, he told his wife to tie the other end to the pack thread, and after he had drawn up the pack thread, he repeated the process with the stout twine, and lastly with the rope.

Then the rest was easy.

The minister descended from the tower by means of the rope,, and made his-escape.

life lesson

In this body of ours – the breath motion is the “silken, thread,” by laying hold of and learning to control it , we grasp the pack thread of the nerve currents, and from these the stout twine of our thoughts, and lastly the rope of Prana (Life), controlling which ultimately we reach freedom.

Message written by a Woman….heart touching

A heart touching message….. by a woman…  Dedicated to all women😘😊

Someone asked her……. Are you a working woman or a house- wife ??

She replied : “ Yes I am a full time working house-wife.”

I work 24 hours a day…..
I am a “mummy”,
I am a wife,
I am a daughter,
I am a daughter-in-law…..
I am an Alarm clock,
I am a Cook,
I am a Maid,
I am a Teacher,
I am a waiter,
I am a nanny,
I am a nurse,
I am a handyman,
I am a Security officer,
I am a Counsellor,
I am a comforter,

I don’t get holidays,
I don’t get sick leave,
I don’t get day off……
I work through day and night…..

I am on call…… all hours and get paid with a sentence….. “what do you do all day”

 

 Woman has the most unique character like salt;  Her presence is never remembered but Her absence makes all the things tasteless !! 

Pass it to all the lovely ladies…..your Mother. …..your Wife……your daughter …your sister…..your friend😊 .

 

WELCOME TO THE 21ST CENTURY !! Think about it !!

👍👍. “WELCOME TO THE 21ST CENTURY !!… Do think about it…..

Our Phones 👉 Wireless
Cooking – 👉 Fireless
Cars – 👉 Keyless
Food – 👉 Fatless
Tyres – 👉 Tubeless
Tools – 👉 Cordless
Dress – 👉 Sleeveless
Youth – 👉 Jobless
Leaders – 👉 Shameless
Relationships-👉Meaningless
Attitude – 👉 Careless
Wives – 👉 Fearless
Babies – 👉 Fatherless
Feelings – 👉 Heartless
Education – 👉 Valueless
Children – 👉 Mannerless
Government – 👉 Useless
PARLIAMENT-👉CLUELESS
MASSES – 👉 HELPLESS

Everything is becoming LESS but still our hope in God is – Endless.

In fact I am Speechless Because Salvation remains Priceless!!

If u don’t share this, the message is worthless!😀